a few people have told me that I really am female, that I am just mistaken about what it takes to fall under that label. they know a little about my personality and declare that it falls into the female box, regardless of genitalia I guess. who knows maybe if I had different genitalia and the same personality they'd say I fit into the male box. maybe they think sex is only based on genitals. anyway, if they do think that trans people exist but just that I don't qualify, the fact that I don't feel like feminine labels fit me means nothing to them. i don't understand why.
at least one person has said the same kind of thing about me being asexual. like I'm not really asexual, I'm just some version of "normal", even though I don't want to have sex and find the idea kind of repulsive.
why? why do they want to label me as normal, why do they want to refuse useful descriptions, why do they want to stretch words into meaninglessness?